That stood out to me like a sore thumb so I jotted it down really quick and here we are with this bangin’ blog post.
You’re gonna love this life-changing junk :)
There’s two games that you are playing every single day… The Game of Life and The Game of Business. Today we are going to focus on The Game of Life, stay tuned for “Are You Playing The Game? Prt 2”, where we will talk all about the business aspect.
The Game of Life: Of course you know you are playing this game, you are doing it every single day, but there’s some questions I want to ask you about this, so get ready to be real and get really honest with yourself.
How Are You Playing It?
If you could write your life EXACTLY the way you wanted it, would that be your life right now? … If your answer is “No” then are you doing whatever it takes to play your life YOUR WAY?
More than likely you’re not playing it at nearly the level you would encourage your kids to play one of the millions of sports you have them in, right?
You’re at their game, you’re hootin’ and hollerin’ from the stands, doing whatever you can to motivate them to rock it out, have FUN & WIN!
So, why aren’t you holding yourself to the same standards? Do you really think that life is going to just HAPPEN for you?
Better yet, with no one cheering for you the way you cheer for your kids at their sports events, you have to be your own cheerleader, but there’s a catch … You have to be your own POSITIVE cheerleader just like you are for your kids or other people in your life.
Would you look at them and say you can’t hit a home run, you are struggling to make that touch down buddy or we don’t have the money for you to have a soccer ball to take to practice?
Hell to the no, you would never treat your babies like that, but you do NONE of the same things for yourself, which is making you fail at your version of playing your BEST game of life.
And just so you know missy, you are the only one that can do something about it, but you have to be fed up enough with how it’s going to actually make the change and have it stick.
How Do You Show Up Every Day?
“The sun goes down, the stars come out and all that counts, is here and now, my universe, will never be the same, I’m glad you came”…. Do you know that song?
Well, he’s saying in this verse (to me) that every day you have the chance to SHOW UP and MAKE IT GREAT! Every day is a new day, you cannot go back to change yesterday but you can show up as the best version of you, living the best life you possibly can.
How are you showing up to your life every day????
This is HUGE in whether or not your will ever get to play your game, the way you want, in the life that YOU’VE created.
So are you showing up in a bad mood, complaining, frustrated, frazzled, okay, fine, runnin’ like a chicken, overwhelmed, sad, mad, scared, fearful, comfortable, complacent, defeated, alone, anxious, hateful, jealous, revengeful, judgmental, vindictive, spiteful, or indifferent?
Look at that list, think about how you OFTEN show up in your life, if any of these are consistently how you show up, I’m glad you came…
I would like to take a second and be honest with you about myself here, because I am human, I have been showing up to my days with a lot of these negative feelings lately, BUT NO MORE!
We all go through the ebbs and flows of life, we aren’t ALWAYS up, but now that you’re here I can show you how to show up to your life in the most positive ways you can and when you hit a rut that you feel you cannot get out of, you will have this blog post to come back to, so save the link or bookmark it + Share it on Facebook. Other people need to hear this as well.
It’s easy to show up to your life in one or all of those negative ways that I listed above and it’s even harder to show up in the more positive ways like: Happy, excited, grateful, wonderful, joyful, worthwhile, confident, encouraging, supportive, uncomfortable, loved, contented, thankful, fulfilled & blessed.
If you show up every day with these 3 things while having them engulf your entire being or what I like to say “You Feel It In Your Bones” you will show up for your life ON TOP!
· Confident: You gotta have the confidence in yourself to create and live the life of your dreams, you are enough, you can be whatever you want to be and those that are supposed to be in your life and love you for you, will…Those that don’t, will bow out so you can all move on with your lives.
· Grateful: This is the highest form of getting the results you want out of your life, being grateful for all that you already have and all that you would like to have in your life in the future. <<< This is often the most overlooked step in how people show up every day.
· Courageous: This is one trait that MOST people don’t have because it’s easier to play it safe and do what you know rather than have the courage to take a huge risk and possibly end up failing. If there was any advice that I could offer you in life AND in business it’s to have the courage to ALWAYS live outside your comfort zone, that’s where the true magic happens. :)
Who Is Leading Your Life?
My coaching for you on this one is going to be more short and sweet than the others…If you aren’t leading your life, someone else is and if someone else is, then you are living someone else’s life.
Even when you’re married, you should still be leading your life and your partner should be leading theirs, because when you come together you build a life together while maintaining your independency.
When you are leading one another’s life instead of your own, that’s when someone ends up losing themselves and the marriage fails or starts to fail. Because we all know that with full effort from both sides that it can be fixed.
Even worse though, is when your kids are leading your life, we aren't going to go into great details on this here because I have a new book coming out that will cover this and help you step back into control, but until then, here we go…
Your children should never be the MOST important person or thing to you (YES YOU READ THAT RIGHT), when they are, you lose yourself, you just know yourself as mom, you end up running like a chicken with your head cutoff and wake up one day 50lbs heavier, looking in the mirror saying “who is this woman” Not to mention that your marriage ends up struggling and so much more. I’ve saved 1,000’s of marriages with this simple, yet VITAL bit of information. You come first, then your partner, then your children, then your business and everything else.
When you rearrange your order of importance like this, your life will have a synergy like you never imagined. I know it may seem like I am completely off my rocker, but this junk works, they don’t call me the badass mama bear coach for nothing.
Do You Like The Way It’s Going?
Last question before I let you go so you can play YOUR game of life.
Most people walk around in life bitchen’ and moanin’ because they hate (yes I said hate), the way their life is going BUUUUUUT they don’t want to do anything to change it. That would mean they would have to get out of their comfort zone, build confidence and show gratitude for what they already have. Most people don’t want to make the effort to do that…It’s easier to complain and drag everyone down around them … That’s not you though right? I sure hope not.
And as you know, those are VITAL in how you show up to your life every day.
So, what I am saying, is if you don’t like the way it’s going and it’s not going the way you want it to, now is the time, RIGHT DAMN NOW is the time to change that.
Alright girlfriend, I know this is tugging on your heart strings and was pretty deep there for awhile, I just want you to know that this is LIFE CHANGING stuff. The stuff that rocks you at your core and makes you say to yourself “Who the hell does this chic think she is getting me all rowled up like this?” are the situations that you look back on and say THANK GOD I found her and took the time to read this blog post. There’s also more on this topic in my Clear Your Mind Clutter course that can be found in the Rockstar MOMpreneurs Academunity It takes you through everything step by step to turn your life around.
Be sure to come back next week for the second Article in this series, The Game of Business, you are definitely going to want to commit that one to memory, it’s business changing.
You have the power to live the life of your dreams, the question is, “WILL YOU?”
Power Coach Alishia